I recently hit 40. Heard a lot about how great the 30s was but was not completely sold, still struggling with who I was and what I wanted, and not completely comfortable in my own skin. 40 is when I started accepting my quirkiness and my far less than perfect life. 40 is when I realized that taking care of my mind and spirit was just as important as making sure the bills got paid. 40 is when I really started listening to myself. It’s when I realized we need to honor it all. That it all matters, and nothing is an accident, and there is no need to apologize. For me, that meant I am a lawyer and now I am also a photographer and I will not make myself choose. I think my sister, pictured here, a few years my senior, has known this for a while. She enjoys a flexible teaching career, a my-kids-are-not-babies-anymore gym fit body and a busy social life. She is an academic, a master of interior design, and has always had more close girlfriends than anyone I have ever known. Comfortable with who she is and respectful of her wants and needs. This is my sister, honoring it all.